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Compassion For Couples - 3 Day Workshop, Big Sur , CA , United States

Michelle Becker and Pittman McGehee

February 15, 2019 @ 8:00 pm - February 17, 2019 @ 12:00 pm

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To relate, to love, to connect is to be human.

Who among us does not need to be loved and belong?

As important as our relationships are, they are not always easy! Compassion for Couples (CfC) is a program designed to help us meet ourselves and our partner with greater awareness and compassion. CfC builds on the skills developed in the Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) program and moves deeper into compassion between partners. Utilizing the skills of mindfulness and compassion, this program teaches how to build a strong and healthy foundation for relationships, and provides skills to help navigate the difficulties that arise within us and between us. While prior experience with MSC is helpful, it is not required. 

Partners attend together and will learn to:

    •  Be more present with each other
    •  Identify shared values
    •  Build a base of warmth, security and connection.
    •  Communicate with kindness and compassion
    •  Comfort yourself and your partner
    •  Skillfully relate to your partner in times of difficulty
    • Gain a greater understanding of yourself, your partner, and shared relational patterns


Venue and Schedule

This course is being held at the beautiful Esalen Institute in Big Sur, California.  Please see the Esalen site here for travel information and other tips on how best to plan your stay.  

The course begins with dinner at 6:00 pm on Friday, February 15, 2019 and ends at 12:00 pm on Sunday, February 17, 2019.

Approximate Course Times:

Friday:  8:00-10:00 pm
Saturday:  10:00 am – 12:00 pm, 4:15-6:15 pm, 7:30-10:00 pm
Sunday: 10:00 am – 12:00 pm

This retreat intentionally allows plenty of free time.  You and your partner are encouraged to explore Big Sur, savor a romantic meal, take a hike, a dip in the hot springs or just enjoy quiet togetherness. 


Recommended reading:

Kristin Neff, Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself

Christopher Germer, The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion

Christopher Germer & Kristin Neff, The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength and Thrive

Program fees:

    This course is being managed by the Esalen Institute, and both tuition and accommodations fees are paid directly to Esalen. 
    • Please see this page on the Esalen site for more details and to register: 

Compassion for Couples Workshop

All meals will be prepared and arranged by Esalen.  While focused on plant-based cuisine, daily menus also include sustainable sources of animal protein, as well as gluten-free and lactose-free options. All dishes are crafted on-site, from scratch, using mindfully sourced, natural and organic ingredients.  Esalen is happy to work with individual guest to accommodate specific dietary needs.


Cancellation policy:

For the Couples that registered and paid tuition through CMSC, there is a $100 Non-Refundable cancellation fee for tuition applicable at any time. Please contact Esalen for information regarding cancellation fees for accommodations, and for tuition & accommodations if you register through Esalen for the program.

If you registered for tuition through CMSC, your tuition payment (less the $100 non-refundable cancellation fee) will be refunded if we are notified by January 14, 2019 that you need to cancel your registration.  And no refunds are available after January 14, 2019, except on compassionate grounds.

In the unlikely event that the course is canceled, CMSC is responsible only for a full refund of the registration fee (if you registered through CMSC for tuition) and not for transportation, hotel accommodations or any miscellaneous expenses.


February 15, 2019 @ 8:00 pm
February 17, 2019 @ 12:00 pm


Esalen Institute
55000 Highway 1
Big Sur, CA 93920 United States
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