The Self-Compassionate Man – Participant Page

Course dates

Thursday and Saturday
June 17 & 19

Course dates
June 17 & 19 (Thursday & Saturday)

9 am – 12 Noon Pacific Time
11am – 2 pm Central Time
12 pm – 3 pm Eastern Time
5 pm – 8 pm UTC
6 pm – 9 pm Central European Time
1 am – 4 am June 18 & 20, Perth, Australia

Please check World Time Buddy to confirm the time the program begins where you live.

If you miss The Self-Compassionate Man, you will be able view the session recording. The session will be recorded, edited and be posted on this Participant Support Page within 48 hours.

Zoom Link for Main Sessions: Join Here
Meeting ID:  922 8207 1091
Passcode:   6T2cq&

Zoom Guidelines: CMSC utilizes the Zoom platform for this training.  If you are unfamiliar with Zoom, please first review Zoom’s helpful audio, video, and Quick Start guides.  You can also log in 30 minutes before the first session to troubleshoot your connection.


Session Recordings

Session recording will be posted  here within 48 hours of each Self-Compassionate Man session. They will be available for viewing until August 1. They will not be downloadable.

Session 1

Session 2

Regardless of your comfort with the Zoom platform, we ask that all participants try to log in at least 5-10 minutes before the sessions begin so that you can be settled and ready to begin.

Program Contacts:
For Zoom Technical Issues:
Byron Wild: [email protected]

For Registration or Payment Questions:
Gail: [email protected]

For CMSC Program Related Questions:
Laura Stein: [email protected]

Daniel Ellenberg’s website:

Steve Hickman, Executive Director of the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion.

Program Calendar
All times Pacific Time
Click to join Zoom sessions
Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday
Friday Saturday
June 17:
Main Session: 9am - 12pm
June 19:
Main Session: 9am - 12pm

Self-Compassion Mentoring

A unique aspect of Antidote to Shame training is the opportunity to engage in virtual Mentor Groups while going through the program. Most trainings do not include this kind of opportunity. These extra Mentor Groups are designed to help you maximize learning and get a jump start on integrating Antidote to Shame skills into your life.

Engage with a highly trained and experienced MSC Teacher / Mentor for on-the-spot learning and application of Antidote to Shame skills and teachings. Optimize your experience by attending additional interactive Mentor Groups.


Cassondra Graff, M.S., LCSW Certified MSC Teacher

Cassondra is a mindfulness and compassion teacher and mentor with the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion (CMSC). She brings 22 years of experience as a licensed psychotherapist and mental health provider. Cassondra leads Mentor Groups designed to empower people to optimize the application of self-compassion into their lives.

Cassondra believes in the power of compassion to help us survive, thrive and navigate life, especially in challenging times.

Meet Cassondra and Sydney and learn more about the Self-Compassion Mentor and Affinity Groups in this brief video. All groups offer you an opportunity to practice, connect, and explore what you are learning in this program further. Affinity Groups are for you to connect with people who share your identity. The general Self-Compassion Mentor Groups are open to all.
Join Link for all Mentor Groups
Please note: there will be a one hour break from 12-1pm before the start of all Mentor and Affinity Groups on Training Days March 2 & 4
Cassondra Graff schedule for mentor groups (Open to Everyone):
Please note: All groups are 1-Hour long
No Sign up required. Just click on “Join” link and attend.
March 2, 3, 4, 5 – 1-2pm Pacific Time
If you are uncertain of a start time, please check World Time Buddy to find the time the mentor group begins where you live.

Affinity Groups

Affinity Groups with Sydney Spears, David Fredrickson, and Lisa Patterson Raterman, Affinity Group Mentors (Included in Program):

What is a Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) affinity group?

A group of Antidote to Shame training participants who self-identify with a particular social-cultural identity (i.e. race, ethnicity, culture, sexual orientation, gender identity, ability-challenged, nationality, age, social class, etc.). With this shared identity they come together to explore the intersection of their diverse experiences in relation to learning and practicing Antidote to Shame. The intention is to provide a safe space in which participants from underrepresented populations have an opportunity to create community and discuss the course experiences and learning with others who share the same social-cultural identity. This can afford participants from the numerical minority greater accessibility to a supportive space for the cultivation of social-cultural identity affirmation, inclusiveness and belonging.

Mindful Self-Compassion Affinity Groups

  • Black, Indigenous and People of Color: BIPOC (for people who have felt stigma, bias or oppression who are from underrepresented racial identities)
  • Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer/Genderqueer, Intersex, 2 Spirited +Plus:  LGBTQI2S+
    (for people who have felt stigma, bias or oppression due to sexual orientation, gender identity, nonbinary/gender expansion & expression)
  • Ability Challenged (for people who have felt stigma or bias connected with physical, medical, or mental challenges, such as learning disabilities, physical limitations and visible or invisible conditions including, but not limited to, difficulty walking, diabetes, multiple sclerosis)

Sydney Spears, Ph.D., LCSW, Certified MSC Teacher

Sydney is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in working with trauma survivors and issues related to social-cultural identity. She is a passionate advocate of diversity, equity and anti-oppressive work and teaches academic diversity courses at the University of Kansas.


David Fredrickson, MFT

Writer, teacher, advocate, and psychotherapist, David Fredrickson has worked with and learned from underserved and traumatized communities including at-risk children and families, the LGBTQI2S+ community, and those affected by HIV/AIDS. Following his own health crisis, activated by caregiver fatigue, David discovered that his care often did not include himself. Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) became part of his own healing and as a MSC teacher he is committed to bringing this powerful balm to others. A long-time resident of San Francisco, David is a lover of nature, music, good friends, dogs, and good food.

Lisa Patterson Raterman, RN, BSN

Lisa Patterson Raterman, RN, BSN is a Mindfulness and Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher based in Chicago., IL, where she has lived and worked for over 30 years. Lisa teaches MBSR at DePaul University and the Working Mindfulness Studio, as well as teaching MSC. Lisa bridges the science and data driven analysis of western medicine with the unknown and mystery of eastern philosophy. Lisa hosts retreats and workshops for people from all walks of life in Illinois, Wisconsin, Arizona and online. She believes deeply in the positive and transformative powers of meditation, mindfulness, and self-care.

Schedule for Affinity Group Sessions:

Please note: there will be a one hour break from 12-1pm before the start of all Mentor and Affinity Groups on Training Days March 2 & 4

Sydney Spears schedule for Affinity Groups (BIPOC)
Please note: all groups are 1-Hour long
March 2, 3, 4, 5 – 1-2pm Pacific Time
David Fredrickson schedule for Affinity Groups (LGBTQI2S+)
Please note: all groups are 1-Hour long
March 2, 3, 4, 5 – 1-2pm Pacific Time
Lisa Patterson Raterman schedule for Affinity Groups (Ability Challenged)
Please note: all groups are 1-Hour long
March 2, 3, 4, 5 – 1-2pm Pacific Time
Please take some time to reflect on which particular affinity group you would like to attend. We understand there may be more than one type you identify with but in order to best support you, it would be important for you to decide which would benefit you most at this time.
  • The Affinity Groups are optional and freely offered as part of this training. To maintain a supportive, welcoming, and comfortable environment, advanced sign-up registration is required. Each group will meet for a total of four one-hour sessions during the week of the training. Schedules can be found on the Participant Page, and we encourage you to attend all four sessions to allow for safety, cohesion, and community-building.
  • We encourage you to sign up early.
If you are uncertain of a start time, please check World Time Buddy to find the time the affinity group begins where you live.